Attachment Styles and Their Impact in the Workplace
Our attachment style can significantly affect how we function and perform in the workplace. This is largely because work environments are full of social relationships and dynamics. Think about your job for a moment. Who comes to mind first? Your boss? Colleagues? For many of us, these relationships define our experiences at work. If you struggle with issues at work, this could be related to your attachment style.
Attachment is a concept that often brings up thoughts of relationships—particularly intimate, parent-child, or close friendships. However, attachment patterns can extend far beyond these areas, influencing our daily lives and, importantly, our workplace interactions.
How Much Do We Know About Attachment Styles in the Workplace?
The application of attachment theory to the workplace began with researchers like Hazan and Shaver in 1990. They found that the same attachment dynamics that shape intimate relationships also apply to our interactions with coworkers and leaders.
While this is still an emerging area of study, research suggests growing interest. Yip and colleagues observed that, in recent years, there has been a significant rise in research articles on the influence of attachment theory in organizational settings—more in the last five years than in the preceding 25 years.
Let’s explore some of the key findings regarding attachment in the workplace:
Secure attachment in employees and leaders brings numerous benefits to the workplace.
Insecure attachment styles, on the other hand, can present challenges for both employees and leaders.
Despite this, there can also be positive aspects of insecure attachment styles for employees.
A Brief Intro to Attachment Theory and the Four Attachment Styles
Attachment theory, developed by John Bowlby, suggests that attachment begins at birth. Infants rely on their caregivers for safety, support, and care. When caregivers consistently meet a child’s needs, the child forms a secure bond. If a child’s needs aren’t met, they develop insecure attachment patterns, which serve as templates for future relationships—including relationships in the workplace.
Types of Insecure Attachment Styles
Insecure attachment can take three main forms:
Anxious (Preoccupied) Attachment: People with this style often feel insecure and worry about relationships. They may have low self-esteem, seek approval, and become clingy. In the workplace, they tend to rely heavily on social relationships and fear negative feedback.
Avoidant (Dismissive) Attachment: Individuals with this style present as independent and self-sufficient. They prefer to work alone, avoid relying on others, and often distance themselves emotionally from colleagues.
Disorganized Attachment: This style combines characteristics of both anxious and avoidant attachment. It can make workplace behavior unpredictable, as individuals switch between seeking closeness and withdrawing.
How Attachment Styles Affect Employees
Anxious Attachment in the Workplace
Anxiously attached employees may struggle with low self-esteem and insecurity, leading them to constantly seek approval from colleagues. They often prioritize group cohesion and try hard to be liked, which can sometimes make them appear clingy. They may also have a strong fear of negative feedback, which impacts their self-worth and job satisfaction, often resulting in burnout.
Potential Challenges: Preoccupation with acceptance, fear of rejection, hypersensitivity to feedback, and difficulty working independently.
Strengths: Anxious employees are hyper-vigilant, which makes them good at detecting risks and deceit. Their desire to be accepted drives them to constantly improve and contribute positively to group dynamics.
Avoidant Attachment in the Workplace
Avoidant employees prefer to work alone and often avoid group activities. They may distrust their colleagues and leaders, resisting leadership and showing less positivity. They are the "lone wolves" of the workplace, often using work as a means to avoid social interactions.
Potential Challenges: Resistance to leadership, distrust of colleagues, and avoidance of group tasks.
Strengths: Avoidant employees are highly effective at working independently, focusing on tasks, and acting quickly in challenging situations. They help keep teams focused on results and productivity.
Secure Attachment in the Workplace
Employees with secure attachment tend to form strong interpersonal bonds and have high job satisfaction. They trust their leaders, feel comfortable collaborating, and are generally perceived as valuable team members. Securely attached individuals are least likely to procrastinate, fear failure, or struggle with tasks.
Benefits: Strong team bonds, high job satisfaction, trust in leadership, and overall well-being.
Attachment Styles and Leadership
Attachment styles influence not just employees but leaders as well. Securely attached leaders tend to balance work focus with empathy for their team. They are attuned to their employees' needs and create a supportive environment. In contrast, avoidant leaders may be perceived as less available and less sensitive to their team's well-being, which can harm morale.
Inconsistent leadership can also trigger insecure behaviors in employees—making anxious employees more clingy and avoidant employees more distant, ultimately affecting productivity.
The Role of Disorganized Attachment
Research on disorganized attachment in the workplace is still sparse. Individuals with disorganized attachment often exhibit both anxious and avoidant behaviors, leading to unpredictable patterns at work. Their interactions can be inconsistent, making it challenging for colleagues to understand their behavior.
Conclusion: Take-Home Message
Attachment theory offers valuable insights into workplace dynamics. Understanding how attachment styles influence relationships and behaviors at work can help create better teams and leaders. Secure attachment tends to lead to better outcomes, but even insecure attachment styles bring unique strengths to the workplace. For instance, anxious individuals enhance group cohesion, while avoidant individuals are great at focusing on tasks.
Ultimately, a balanced team that includes secure, anxious, and avoidant individuals may perform better overall. If you or someone you know is struggling with attachment-related issues at work, remember that attachment styles can change with time and effort. Developing a secure attachment style is possible and can bring numerous benefits, both professionally and personally.
Recap
1. Employees with a Secure Attachment Style
Superpowers:
Strong Bonds with Everyone at Work: Employees with a secure attachment style are comfortable forming positive relationships across their workplace.
Perceived as Valuable Group Members: These individuals are generally seen as contributors and valuable team members.
Not Likely to Procrastinate or Have Difficulties with Tasks: Secure employees are disciplined and tend to complete their work without delay.
Less Fear of Rejection and Failure: They exhibit lower anxiety regarding mistakes or being judged negatively.
High Job Satisfaction: Secure attachment is associated with feeling content and satisfied in their roles.
Positive View of Coworkers and Leaders: These employees have a positive and trusting perception of their colleagues and supervisors.
Trust in the Leader: They trust their leaders, which helps in creating a cooperative environment.
Better Well-Being (Physical and Mental): Overall, they exhibit higher levels of well-being, both physically and mentally, compared to insecurely attached peers.
2. Employees with an Anxious Attachment Style
Difficulties:
Preoccupation with Being Accepted: Anxious employees are often concerned about whether the team accepts them and actively seek approval.
Fear of Rejection & Negative Evaluation: They may have a strong fear of being judged poorly.
Conformity to Group Wishes: They tend to conform to group dynamics to avoid rejection.
Overwhelming Desire for Closeness: They invest heavily in social relationships, which can become overwhelming.
Negative Expectations Regarding Leaders: They may expect their leaders to behave in ways that do not meet their needs.
Low Independence: They often need support from leaders or colleagues to complete tasks.
Hypersensitivity to Feedback: Anxious employees are very sensitive to any form of feedback.
Feeling Underappreciated: They tend to feel undervalued at work.
High Burnout Levels: Constantly seeking validation can lead to burnout.
Counterproductive Work Behavior: They may show disengagement or even intentions to leave the job.
Superpowers:
High Performers and Hypervigilant About Self-Improvement: Their anxiety about performance often drives them to excel and constantly improve.
More Accurate in Detecting Deceit: They are better able to detect inconsistencies or threats due to their heightened awareness.
Alert to Potential Deficiencies: Anxious employees are very self-aware, allowing them to identify areas for growth.
Effective at Detecting & Responding to Risks: Their vigilant nature allows them to foresee potential challenges.
Less Friction: They often seek to maintain harmony and avoid conflicts in the workplace.
3. Employees with an Avoidant Attachment Style
Difficulties:
Less Positivity and More Negative Emotions: Avoidant individuals are more likely to view interactions negatively.
Avoid Interpersonal Closeness: They prefer solitary work and do not engage in group tasks.
Distant and Avoid Social Interactions: They use work to avoid socializing.
Critical View of Leadership: They tend to be critical of their leaders.
Resistance to Leadership and New Information: Avoidant employees are often resistant to authority or new ideas.
Distrust of Others: They generally distrust people, including their leaders.
Seek Less Support: Avoidant individuals do not seek support, even when they might need it.
Non-Conformity: They do not conform easily to group dynamics.
Superpowers:
Focus on Tasks: They have an impressive ability to maintain focus and accomplish their work without distractions.
Work Well Independently: Avoidant employees excel at independent tasks, requiring minimal supervision.
Quick to Act in Times of Danger: They respond efficiently and promptly in critical situations.
Promote Result-Oriented Behavior: Their focus helps foster a results-oriented culture in the workplace.
Each of these attachment styles brings both challenges and strengths to the workplace, providing valuable insight into how individuals can best contribute to their teams and where they may need support.
References
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Taken from an article posted on attachmentproject.org
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